We are all connected (by Cressida Pryor)

May you receive the blessing of a reminder that we are all connected…and this can come in unexpected ways…serendipities, coincidences or synchronicities…however you understand it…

May I share a recent one that might ring a bell for you…

I try, when I can to buy books second hand…or ‘pre-loved’ if that sits better with you…

Over the past few years I have been trying to get my head around the concept of how people can do malicious or cruel acts to others, so jumped at an online training entitled; ‘Malice in Clinical Practice’ taught by  a well respected clinician and trainer.

Her first and main reference was for a book written in 1989 called ‘the Tyranny of Malice’. In the tea break I went online and was pleased to see one for a few pounds and bought it. It arrived virtually the next day. In good condition and I started to read it.

I noticed the stamp in the inside cover of its previous owner: the Library of Sir Ben Helfgott MBE.

I didn’t think any more of this…until yesterday when, having a few moments to spare I put this gentleman’s name into Google…

Reading about his life and recent death, aged in his nineties gave me a shudder and then insight as to why this book had been in his library…

He was a survivor of one of humanity’s worst crimes against their fellow man.

Initially sent to Buchenwald, aged nine, Helfgott survived the Holocaust but was very weak, and was liberated in 1945. He was among 732 orphan refugees under the age of 16 brought to England after the war by CBF World Jewish Relief after being liberated from Theresienstadt; he formed a part of the initial 300 arrivals and thus of the group known as The Windermere Children who were sent to Troutbeck Bridge on arrival. He and one of his sisters (Mala Tribich) were the only members of his family to survive the war; his mother and youngest sister were rounded up and shot by the Nazis.

He campaigned that the holocaust must not be forgotten…and also seems to have wanted to make sense of and explore the dark side of character and culture…the focus of the book that has connected me with this amazing man…

I feel extremely honoured and humbled to have his book and wonder where this connection will lead me now…

 May blessings of connection open up for you this Advent and may you be open to the gift they bring you.

Advent blessings Day 3: The ice cream doughnut (by Kevin Watson)

I’m not a big fan of middle-of the-plate food. If we go out to eat, I want a good portion that goes right to the edge of the plate, not a lonely morsel in the middle surrounded by a sea of empty porcelain. If you pay to eat out, you shouldn’t feel the need to stop off for snacks on the way home, and the kind of place I like has waiters that don’t wince when you ask for ketchup.  

My palate may not be sophisticated but I do like food and in June Tracey and I found ourselves in a wonderful Thai restaurant in Ambleside where the portions were good and the company even better (I have to say that of course, but it’s true). It was a lovely meal but for me the highlight, the moment of culinary ecstasy was a dessert that had a delicious warm doughnut exterior but on the inside it was packed with creamy ice-cold ice cream.

This dessert was a thing of beauty that Sunday night to match the Lakeland hills that surrounded me and the fact that all these months later I am still remembering it with a smile is a reminder of the importance of celebrating simple moments of life.

About twenty years ago I cited an American minister in a sermon that was all about the importance of simple pleasures. Unfortunately, I can’t find a record of who he was, but I will repeat his words below because they speak rather more eloquently than my ice cream doughnut of the transformative potential there is in celebrating simple things:

During my first year in theological school I was in despair about life, my own included. One cold, dreary Chicago day during the worst of it, wandering aimlessly along 63rd Street, going silently crazy, I suddenly, without intending or willing it, turned and stepped into a fresh fruit bar and ordered a glass of orange juice. 

I drank it unthinkingly, then tasted the juice, the pulp. And slowly something happened. The orangeness of that orange juice, its sweetness and sunfilled-ness, the feel of it going into my throat and into my body, awakened me. I remember mumbling to myself how those oranges were doing good by me, actually caring for me without my asking, and the least I could do was say — if not “thank you” — at least “okay”. 

Maybe if oranges could be such a pal — zinging good things through me — why not other things? The sun, the air, the sidewalk, the music pouring from the bells of Rockefeller Chapel across the midway. I finished my orange juice, walked back to the Meadville Library, wrote an A paper on Luther and the Anabaptists and went on into the ministry. 

Advent Blessings Day 2: The Goldcrest by Cressida Pryor

May you have the blessing of meeting a Goldcrest on a winter’s walk…

I have just had a quick nip out with the dog…both well wrapped up, but I’d left my gloves at home so my hands firmly pocket planted…there is still snow on the escarpment and a bitter wind.

And I heard a different squeaking in a nearby tree. We stopped to better listen and looked up to identify the squeak’s source

My eyes adjusted to see a tiny yellowy green brown bird flitting from branch to branch… a Goldcrest! …Apparently the adults weigh the same as a 20p coin…they are the UK’s smallest bird.

I felt truly blessed to be in the company of this minute miracle of nature…reminding me of Julian of Norwich’s words when holding a small nut in her hand…and marvelling at it’s smallness  is told that ‘It is all that is madeand ‘endures because God loves it.’.

May we all endure this Advent’s busy times knowing that we are truly loved…

Today may you have the blessing of picking something up, at home, and finding that long lost special thing beneath it…you perhaps put it somewhere for safe keeping…you got distracted…and then began to lose hope of ever finding it…

Until…

It reminds me of the words in the hymn Amazing Grace; ‘I once was lost but now I’m found…’

This brings together all those loose ends into something more coherent; those times when we do indeed feel lost…lost amongst the chaos and the clutter of life; the tiredness after a fretful night. Feeling ragged and not quite sure of our direction.

Perhaps a well timed cup of tea, finding that lost something or other, just noticing a glimmer of beauty even in the dying flowers can help us feel ‘found’ again…

May the blessing of ‘feeling found’ be part of your Advent path….